Ponderings on Leadership, Employee/Employer

I have been pondering leadership. As I read 1 Nephi 1 it settled on my soul how Lehi was a great leader. He lead by example. If he expected his sons to follow him then he followed the Lord. We all are followers and leaders. As we work on ourselves and becoming more and more obedient to the Lord or to our priesthood leaders, then we are in a position to lead because we are showing humility and repentance, etc.

I remember my english teacher preaching to us to "show, don't tell." That is the way of a leader, he/she must "show", more than one "tells."

The Doctrine and Covenants teaches us to teach by "precept and example."

I have really been drawn to pondering leadership because I have felt very critical of the way my managers at work have chosen to lead. I feel like they aren't implementing true principles. They love to read about true principles but they don't seem to implement them. They choose to lead by instilling fear and force.

I have felt that I need to be humble and obedient. Sometimes when I see the irony of a leader demanding me to do something they don't do, it becomes easy to kick back and not want to do it because of the hypocrisy. Sometimes I just see it differently. I want to have balance in my life. When I'm at work I'm going to work hard but I have family, church, and civic responsibilities too and I need that balance or I'll be a failure. So, it's hard to want to be obedient to every whim that they give to us.

If this was a priesthood setting I would have to humbly submit, so my question is, "should I just humbly submit or should I openly communicate with them about things I feel are not correct?" I have openly communicated with them in the past and been shut down. I've tried to do it very discreetly but I have felt completely ignored and then a harsh rebuttal comes from them as if to say, "we know best, you're just prideful." So, I'm caught a little. I used to just say, "ok, I'll do it your way," but I'm not so sure I shouldn't temper their ideas that aren't just or correct.

I'll keep seeking guidance. This chapter in 1 Nephi 1 shows Lehi, a leader, being humble to the commands of the Lord and therefore, being blessed. Nephi, the subordinate, is humble, seeks a witness that his father is lead by God, implements his father's will, and then becomes a leader too. Is this scenario different than at work. If we desire to be in the kingdom of God then we must follow God's leaders. If we desire to be a part of a company (kingdom), then we must be obedient to their leaders. I think that feels right. If their whims and laws become so out of line with my core values then I would have to make a decision if I want to be a part of this company. This seems logical and correct, no matter how much I disagree with what they implement, if I'm a part of this company, then I must submit.

I guess this is the same way that church members can be faithful members of the church but still live in a socialist or communist country. We believe in obeying, honoring, and sustaining the law...even in our companies. Even if they aren't following perfect governing principles.